My husband doesn’t want to buy us a separate apartment and leave his mother alone. He assures me that his mom just can’t do it without us. I would agree with him if my mother-in-law wasn’t ruining my life. My mother-in-law has been retired for seven years. Since retiring, my mother-in-law hasn’t worked a day. I understand: my mother-in-law has worked for many years and is tired. Well, let her rest.
After we got married, we started living together with my mother-in-law. My husband and his mother owned a two-bedroom apartment. There was plenty of room for everyone. I was sure that first we would live with my husband and his mother, and then we would collect the money for an apartment and buy our own place. But unfortunately, life has made significant adjustments to my plans and everything is so unpredictable.
My mother-in-law is retired and her pension is very small. And my mother-in-law is used to living without saving and not denying herself anything. And why shouldn’t she live well if her son pays for all of his mother’s wishes! My husband pays for the utilities in full, buys groceries. And also makes sure to send his mother to a sanatorium.
And then I came along, and my mother-in-law’s life changed dramatically. I immediately explained to my husband that if we wanted to save money for our own place, we should save and spend less money on his mother’s wishes. My husband was sympathetic to my words. My mother-in-law, on the other hand, was very unhappy about what was going on.
Of course she was! After all, she used to get everything she wanted. And now she had to give up a lot. This made her very angry, and she decided to take revenge on me, causing me problems and trouble.
She said I was a terrible daughter-in-law and that I was turning her husband against her.
– That’s why you need the apartment in the first place? You live here! There’s plenty of room! And when you have children, I’ll help you! If you do not like something, then you and save money from your salary. And my son has an apartment!
– I also have a share in my parents’ apartment! But it’s not a separate apartment! – I tried to explain to my mother-in-law my point of view.
But my mother-in-law insists that if we live on my husband’s property, then I should only save money from my salary to buy an apartment. Well, my husband is a smart man and he realized that what his mother says is nonsense. That’s why we started saving money from both of our salaries to buy an apartment.
Of course, my mother-in-law didn’t like it very much: because of that she was left without a trip to the sea. So she decided to make life difficult for me. She constantly complains about me to everyone: her husband, neighbors, and acquaintances. She even refuses to eat what I cooked. Also, my mother-in-law washes the floors after me and does all the laundry. She doesn’t seem to confront me openly, but she constantly makes my life uncomfortable.
I put up with it for six months. And then I realized that I was really sick of it.
– We already have the money for the down payment on the mortgage, so we’re going to buy an apartment! – I told my husband.
He was happy at first. And then suddenly he had excuses.
– Why do we have to take out a mortgage right now? Let’s save up a little more money, so we can pay less interest!
And then we found out why he changed his mind. It turns out his mom talked him into it! She says she can’t do it without us. I do understand that my mother-in-law just need her husband’s money. After all, so great to live on his pension, she certainly can not.
A normal woman would have sat quietly and enjoyed her comfortable life. But my mother-in-law decided otherwise. She wants to drive me out of the apartment and destroy our family. But she’s not succeeding.
It’s not like I’m demanding that my husband sell the apartment and take his share of the money. Although he is entitled to half of the two-room apartment. My husband and I have both saved for an apartment. Why do we have to put it off now?!
What should I wait for? Wait for my mother-in-law to die? Well, I can wait for a long time: my mother-in-law has no health problems. And I don’t want her to die. I just want to be a mom. But I don’t want to live in the same apartment as my mother-in-law and my children.
As long as I work and bring money into the house, she still tolerates me. And if I’m on maternity leave, will not go anywhere, and will only take care of the baby, then my mother-in-law will blow my mind. So how do I convince my husband that we need to buy an apartment as soon as possible?
