My wife used to be a very caring mother. She would stay up nights when my daughter was sick, she never missed a concert at school or a dance recital, and she tried very hard to take her child out every weekend. But ever since our daughter turned thirteen, my wife has become distant. She now devotes more time to her old father. He is left alone, often bored, and takes advantage of his daughter’s kindness because she thinks her father needs her more than my daughter and I do. Since he has a small pension, we are now obliged to give him half of our earnings for medicine and all other needs. Is it okay that the father-in-law is alone and there are three of us? It’s kind of an unreasonable distribution of funds.
As they say, all the best should be the children – our daughter, as I think it is more important to put aside for a trip with a dance group, to pay for her courses, and eat the same raspberries better girl than an old man of seventy-five. When I tell my wife about this, she takes it all in stride, reminding me that I also take care of my parents. And it is true, but unfortunately, I do not help them financially, my mother also gives my granddaughter pocket money from her pension.
During the quarrel, I told her that not a penny from my salary will go to her father, and she was very offended. She has been sleeping at her father’s house for two days and ignores me and her daughter. I do not understand when and for what reason she awakened such a strong love for her father … Maybe he is telling lies about us? Or maybe he’s just messing with her head in some other way to get money? I cannot say that my father-in-law is a very nice man, on the contrary, he is strict and tough and my daughter hardly ever goes to visit him. And my wife sits there and does not want to go back home.
How to make her reevaluate her priorities and explain that parents are important, but her own children’s future is more important. Her father can do without the delicacies and frills, but his daughter needs to save up for university.
