My son takes his granddaughters to our house every weekend if possible. One is eleven now, the other is six, both mostly obedient and good girls. On weekends they like to sleep in, then my grandfather and I help them with their homework, take them for walks, sometimes we take them to the store. Not often, since the kids in the supermarket still find something to grab hold of and start stomping their feet, so that we buy it for the last money, but buy it. But even if my husband goes to the store alone, the girls give him a shopping list with sweets. I try to explain to them that they can’t buy everything, and they are satisfied with chocolate bars, lollipops, and puffs with cherries, but if my husband forgets to take something for them, there will be a tantrum. The older one always starts it, and the younger one, like a copy, lets herself cry and scream.
– It is good to encourage children for something, spoiling them with sweets, but it’s bad for the teeth. And anyway, how do they bring them up that without a chocolate bar they just cry? – I was indignant in the kitchen after my husband had barely calmed my granddaughters down and sat them down to watch TV. – If they brought home a good grade, then fine, but to give them something tasty for their homework is too much. They have to do it six days a week, of course, anyone would be spoiled.
– Well, don’t tell me,” my husband answered. – Our parents also tried to pamper us.
– But not every day!
– Times were different then, but Dad always brought me a candy bar from work.
– Of course,” I muttered, “he worked at the chocolate factory, they gave them to him for free.
– But only one. We shared it with everyone, and we were happy anyway. But it was practically a daily gift, which we were really looking forward to. Our grandchildren expect the same, maybe more, but parents and grandparents have to spoil them, they are children.
– Just spoil them, don’t spoil them, and they don’t respect us at all. They don’t get candy, and they’re already throwing around words about how they don’t like us and “Mom and Dad are better.
My husband shrugged it off, like he didn’t see the problem.
– It’s not the candy. They just don’t have respect. It’s just their age. You have to work on their behavior and attitude toward their elders, and I don’t think candy or lack thereof will solve anything.
