My mother-in-law is very protective of her son. Every day during his lunch break, my husband stops by his mother’s house for lunch. Every day he gets text messages from his mom. Any problem my son has, he runs to his mom for a solution. If he needs money, he goes to his mom.
Today I come home from work, and his mother is at our house with a suitcase of his belongings and books.
– Good evening, Mom! – I say. – What are we doing with a suitcase?
– I decided to stay with you for a week, to help you in the household, with the baby, with her husband. You have to feed your husband. And you don’t always have time for everything. You work here, don’t you? – My mother-in-law answered.
Of course my mother-in-law is a very bossy and peculiar woman. I did not argue with her or explain anything to her, but went to talk to my husband. My husband’s reaction, of course, threw me into shock!
– Honey, I did not understand that your mother decided to stay with us? And without asking us about it! She says I can not cope with the household.
– I don’t mind. Let her stay. Why can your mother come and stay with us for a week and mine can’t? How is my mother any worse? When your mom lived with us for a week, did I say anything against it? – my husband asked me indignantly.
– Wait a minute… My mom lives in another city, she comes once or twice a year! I’m not going to send her to a hotel? Yours lives down the street and almost every day comes to see us! – I answered.
I do not want my mother-in-law to stay at our house in my absence. I can imagine how in our absence mother-in-law sticks her nose in and goes through our lockers.
My husband is used to this kind of hyper-pawning on the part of his mother. Already gray hair has appeared, but his mother still runs, brings soup, wipes his nose. My mother-in-law and I have constant disagreements on this subject. It bothers me that her son is not separated from his mother. Mother-in-law is annoyed that I do not care enough about her son that I work! So she is constantly climbing with constant advice on how I should live, what to do, how to take care of her son.
When we got married, my mother-in-law came every day to visit us, washed my son’s socks and waited for him to come home from work with dinner ready. I, of course, got tired of it. I talked to my husband, and he talked to his mother. She reduced her visits to two or three times a week. When we had son, my mother-in-law started visiting us again, as if she were at work.
Now I am deciding to rent a place for myself and move out while my mother-in-law is in charge. I told my husband about this. I will move out if his mother stays here. My husband resents his mother.
– My mom just wants to help! – My husband said resentfully.
– And I need her help?
