When I heard about it from my acquaintance, I was not only shocked, but also outraged.
Is it really necessary to apologize to her husband for his bad mood and played on you and? What normal man would yell at his beloved woman because of his own bad mood and for no reason at all? This is absolutely not normal.
My acquaintance’s husband, however, found a reason for himself. He was simply unhappy with what his wife cooked for dinner and decided to yell at her. After which she also apologized.
“More than ten years ago I got married. At first everything was fine with us. But the last couple of years my husband started acting very strange. We have constant quarrels and misunderstandings. And it’s not just a quarrel, but a specific scandal. All this is happening in front of the children. And they understand everything perfectly. My husband became a violent and hot-tempered man who yells at me for no reason. All fights start with him, despite the fact that he sees that I am right.
The same thing happened this week. I got home from work and immediately went to make dinner. We had leftover cutlets and side dishes from yesterday, but I wanted to make some fresh soup. I hadn’t made it in a long time. Dinner turned out great. The kids ate two plates each.
My husband came home from work and, as I noticed, was clearly not in the mood. He was unhappy and irritable. I tried to ask him what had happened. After all, he often has problems at work. Instead of talking to me he was picking on me about everything. He yelled at the kids for not getting in the way. And then he decided to go out to dinner. I asked him why he was blaming everyone else for his bad mood. He started picking on every little thing, and then he started yelling, and we started fighting again.
Then he opened the lid of the soup and asked:
– Soup? I don’t want to eat soup, I already had soup for lunch. Couldn’t you make something normal? I want to eat!
From surprise, I even stopped talking. Tears rolled treacherously from my eyes, and I cried. But my husband went quietly to watch TV. I stayed in the kitchen, and it took me a long time to come to my senses. I thought about what had happened and decided to make up with my husband. I forgot my pride and dignity.
I went to him and said:
– I’m sorry. You have problems at work, and I offered you soup. Do you want me to heat up some burgers and potatoes?
– Leave me alone with your cutlets! You should’ve offered me this soup instead. Go away, I want to rest.
– All right. I’m sorry.
After that he just went to sleep in the other room. I had to go to him again: “Why did you leave the bedroom? I asked you for an apology, didn’t I?” My husband turned his back on me. All night long I felt guilty.”
Wow. I listened to the rest of my colleague’s story. How can you do that? Her husband is yelling at her, not insulting her yet, though who knows. All she does is cry and go to him to apologize! Why does she do this? After all, she made dinner for the family! Where is her dignity? Why has she stopped respecting herself? I doubt her husband will change for the better.
