– It must be hard for you? It’s not easy to raise a healthy child alone, and if there are any problems, it’s an impossible burden. And when there is no one to help you, you might as well jump the rope, – sympathize with the people around her.
Maria is raising her eleven-year-old son alone. The boy has a birth trauma. He is physically well-developed, but he cannot go to school, he cannot even be taken to a remedial class, he cannot be left alone. The boy has retarded mental development. He is always excited, he can’t concentrate on anything, so it is hard for him to be in a group of children.
– My husband, when he realized that my son is not like other children, immediately left the family. – Maria shares. – Men don’t want to bring up sick children. Our father has long since found another family, and he has a new, healthy child there.
Thanks to the ex-spouse at least for the fact that he always helps Maria with his son with money. He gives money for the examination, treatment, food and rehabilitation of her son. The man fully supports his ex-wife and son, because Maria can’t get a job, as the boy needs 24 hour care. It is true that the father refuses to see his son, he does not need him at all.
– And his grandmother on his father’s side is not interested in his grandson either,” said his mother, “She doesn’t even want to see him. What to speak about strangers, when my own sister never asks whether we need help or not. So we make it on our own.
Maria lives with her retired mother, who is always helping her older daughter to raise her problematic grandson. Maria’s younger sister, Samantha, is completely uninterested in her nephew’s problems.
– Samantha and her husband live just fine! Her husband has an apartment, they bought a country house together and they go on vacation several times a year, but Samantha has never wanted to help her sister with money.
Samantha and her husband work, and they are also raising a nine-year-old daughter. They do not want any more children, as their career comes first. For their daughter before sometimes in-law looked after, and now they hired a nanny, she takes the little girl to classes, lessons with her, because her mother and father return from work only late in the evening.
– Well, this is not at all in a human way – Maria’s friends say, – a sick child is not only expensive to raise, but also morally difficult. But Samantha could at least help financially. She does not help you with money?
Maria is just silent in response:
– Yes, if I ask, she will, but she could have guessed that we need money herself. She refuses to talk to her nephew at all.
– I can not find time to talk to my own daughter – answers all the claims Samantha – until recently, my daughter’s mother-in-law took care of my daughter, and now took a nanny. And to be honest, I do not even know how you can communicate with such a child.
Samantha helps her sister with money every time she asks, but she has never offered her own financial help to her family.
– You give money as if it were your last, and I am asking you for your sister’s son, who is your own nephew. If you can, you should understand that your sister needs help. – Nina’s mother rebukes Samantha.
This hurts Samantha.
– I earn my own money, it doesn’t fall from the sky,” says her daughter to her mother. – You think that I have a hard time with money. It depends on how you look at it. Maria and her son are fully supported by her ex-spouse, and she gets the child’s allowance. They’re not poor, I know that. Yes I go on vacation in the summer, but I do not ask anyone for money, I go on my own. Or is that forbidden by law?
Recently, Samantha’s mother asked her to buy them a washing machine, and then she added the missing amount to her sister and nephew’s vacation in a sanatorium and gave a large sum to pay for expensive treatment. She didn’t say no.
– They are unhappy that they have to ask me for money, they think that I have to guess myself or give them as much money every month as the boy’s father gives them. But I don’t think it’s necessary to do that. A child with special needs is very difficult, but I also have my own daughter, and I have never refused a single request, even though they are getting impudent.
The mother began to reproach Samantha for lack of conscience, and she said that if she was insulted like that again, she would stop giving them money at all.
– That’s why she has to grovel in front of Samantha every time, but there’s no other way! Sick child needs so much that every penny counts. – Says Maria. – So we have to go on humiliation for the sake of her son in front of a rich sister, and she probably just needs it!
