I never understood people who continued to have children even when it was completely inappropriate.
I am a mother myself. My husband and I have two children, and we are not planning to have more. I believe that every woman should feel what it is to be a mother. The love I receive from my children cannot be compared to anything else. However, even in this matter, you need to stop in time so as not to harm your children.
I have an older sister. When I found out about my first pregnancy, she was already expecting her fourth child. I used to admire her self-sacrifice and courage to raise so many children. And who wouldn’t consider such a woman a heroine? But time passed, and my sister kept getting pregnant, and now she has six children. I just don’t understand why she and her husband won’t stop, It’s impossible to give each child time and love. Not to mention the fact that providing a good life for so many children is far from cheap.
And their family doesn’t have that kind of money. My sister has been on maternity leave since she gave birth to her first child. And her husband does not have a stable job, he is limited to regular part-time jobs. Of course, this is not enough for such a large family. It’s good that at least we have enough to pay the rent. I tried to talk to my sister, to explain that every child should be a deliberate decision, you can’t just give birth without having the resources. But she didn’t want to listen to me, and even attacked me with accusations that I needed to get on with my own life.
I used to help their family all the time. I gave them things that were too small for my children, sent money and bought food. Furthermore, I realized that this was my own sister, and I couldn’t just leave her and my nephews without help. But over time, it became impossible to tolerate. My sister stopped thanking me for what I did a long time ago, but she learned to demand more and more services. As if I owe her something.
That’s why I decided to cut off all our contacts. It’s hard on my heart to leave my children like this, but I hope my sister will get her head together, because she will realize that she has no one else to rely on.
Do you think I did the right thing?
