This situation is pretty typical. Got married at the age of 25. A year later gave birth to a daughter. Everything was fine with us. Only since some time he started calling me a slacker. Allegedly I sat on maternity leave, then a small salary, despite the fact that I received not much less than he did. Nevertheless, I didn’t sit at home.
That’s really what they say, once you’re married, you fall under the influence of your mother-in-law’s attachment to your son. I should have suspected something wrong from the beginning. But I was blind and deaf.
My husband constantly cited his mother as an example to me. She worked in the garden, the accounting department, and she had two children – she could cope with them. What about me? I had to work in shifts and not full time.
I worked my ass off to be like my mother-in-law. I helped her at the cottage, plowed, cleaned the house. When my daughter started going to school, I did her homework. But the worries became even greater. At work you have to do everything, but they don’t pay much. I had to endure and be dependent on my spouse. I didn’t want to be a divorcée, to deprive her child of her father.
But everyone knows that the more you allow, the more they sit on my neck. I explained to my husband that I was tired at work, and that I couldn’t afford a second one. So he said that since this is the case, he will give the same amount to the family from his salary, and the rest will be collected. So it would be fair. Our relationship was already breathing heavily, and after that it cracked. There was a rift.
Since then I realized that this can no longer go on. I was tired of his nagging, moralizing, constant reference to his mother. The last straw was his statement that if I do not want to find a normal job, then he will go to my mother. I clung to the idea. But it took me three whole years to get him back to his mother-in-law. I found another job. I got ready. I switched to another fee-paying kindergarten through an acquaintance. I do not want to talk about what I had to endure during this time. Divorced! We started dividing property. We traded our apartment. We fought.
And now I live in peace. With my daughter. And my mother comes sometimes – I am calm and happy without her husband.
I have my own apartment, favorite job. Not glamorous, but all necessary things are provided. Only family is always trying to match me with someone. Some people think I’m a loser divorcee. For this reason I must be more accommodating and not fussy. Only then I will have a personal life. What do I need it for? I have already made a profit. I want to put the status: “Young, beautiful, not interested in dating. I am happy with my daughter and my mother. I do not want to spoil everything with marriage. My husband is also happy next to his mother.
