My mom and I recently had a very big fight. It’s because we live in the same apartment, and she’s been trying to get me out of it for years . She’s been unsuccessful, of course, because I’m legally registered there. I can’t tell you how many different claims I’ve heard during this time. And I wanted to have good relations with my closest people.
Perhaps you too will decide that living with your mother at 30 is not normal. I agree with you, but when my husband and I got married, we simply had no other choice. And then our children were born, so we had no time to move to another place.
We often don’t have enough money for that. I have a small salary, and my husband works from home, he doesn’t always have orders. It happens that he has no work for weeks on end, and his income depends on it. We can barely afford the car loan, because we really needed it. My mom is not happy about this either.
That’s why we still live with my mother. You know, it’s much easier to share the cost of utilities and groceries. Besides, I can always leave my sons with her, which is very beneficial. But for the last two years, my mother hasn’t calmed down, she keeps hinting that we should buy our own place and move out.
I’d love to, but where would we get that kind of money? At first, it was all very unobtrusive, I calmly explained that we don’t have that option, but we are gradually saving for it. Over time, it became unbearable, and we fightabout it all the time.
My husband doesn’t want to get involved because he doesn’t want problems with his mother-in-law, and I understand him, although I often miss his support.
But what could he do? The best way out is to buy an apartment, but we definitely won’t be able to afford it until we finally pay off the car loan.
I understand that my mother wants some peace and quiet in her old age, but that’s no reason to kick us out of the apartment. Besides, I’ve heard repeatedly that my mother plans to leave me the apartment, so what’s the point of wandering around?
And recently we had a huge fight, and now we don’ t talk at all. The thing is that my aunt died and left a one-room apartment to my mother.
I thought it was great news, because my mother would be able to move to a smaller apartment and finally get everything she wanted.
However, my mother not only said that she would not leave her apartment, but also refused to give us another one. She said that we had to deal with it ourselves.
Is this normal? How can we continue to communicate?
