I am just having a cry from the heart! I don’t know what to do and with whom to share my misfortune. The fact is that I live next door to a young mother who has three children. Their ages are from one to six years old – all boys. And as far as I know, their family is planning to have more children. She is a nice, pleasant, positive, person, although a little out of this world.
She and I are friends, so to speak. But this is one of the friendships that later turn out badly, it seems to me. The thing is, this madam is too lazy to take her children to kindergarten. The neighbors do it for her. First some neighbors, a married couple, took on the patronage of her child. Then others began to help this neighbor with her many children. One by one, the wife and one by one, the husband – total strangers – take care of her children, and she does not give a damn. She pretended to be a fool who can not cope with three children. Even my husband, a few times took them together with our son (our children go to the same garden). Then my husband was unable to combine work with trips to the kindergarten, and the mission rested on my shoulders – to take our son to the garden.
Intelligence about the “change of guard”, she tried to hang on me this care – to bring her boys to kindergarten. But it so happened that my son got a little sick, and I did not take him. Then we never met with my neighbor, to solve the issue of driving right away, concretely. Anyway, some time passed when we met up with her again. But even in my husband and I did not help her, she “instigated” a few more neighbors to help her. In short, the lady found a way out just to keep her ass off the couch and not pay attention to the children.
And recently in the kindergarten, I was just stunned by the news that when the groups are disbanded, my son and one of her sons can go to the same group! This news has been bothering me for days. One day I meet her at the doorway, and she tells me so happily.
-“Oh, can you imagine my eldest with yours will be in the same group! That’s great! When we can’t get someone to take the child, we can substitute for each other. And I’m listening and I’m thinking to myself, “Well, who else could it be?”
Anyway, they take her to day care and bring her kids still neighbors. And so I’m really puzzled by this disbandment. I could not entrust her with my child, even if it was very necessary. How do I imagine this picture, that such a windy person as my neighbor is leading her three children and my fourth in the garden. And she will only hold the hand of her youngest. And if you also consider that it is necessary to cross a fairly wide roadway, then for my nerves, this is her mutual assistance will cost a lot.
From all this I can only draw one conclusion: all the children of his and her two, I alone will have to drive. And I am neither mentally nor physically ready to take responsibility for all these kids.
And recently she put me before the fact, so to speak… She is expecting her fourth child, and while she will be in the maternity hospital, could I look after her children. Honestly, I do not mind, if her whole house did not take her kids to kindergarten, including me. And now I can’t find the right, tactful, understandable words to explain to her that this is too much. That you have a man, let him watch, or grandparents.
