Why is it that almost any woman can work even with a temperature of 38 degrees and above, and almost every man falls off his feet starting from 37 degrees.
I’m lucky, my husband is not in that category. Even if he has a cold, he does not shirk his duties, and goes shopping, because I am pregnant and I should not look for heavy things, and wash the dishes instead of me.
And he doesn’t ask for sick leave from work, his employer is a private person, so you can’t go on sick leave, they will just “ask” him or take it out of his salary. Of course, it’s a little inhumane, but he can’t change his job now, he hasn’t found another one yet, and I’m going on maternity leave soon, and we need the money badly.
“He doesn’t have a crown, his nose is in place and he did the test. The doctor we called in clearly diagnosed a common cold. He prescribed plenty of hot drinks, airing the room, and, if desired, a course of vitamins. And now in the evenings my husband lay on the sofa near the TV, and I, as a caring wife, made him hot tea with raspberries and took his temperature.
This went on until my mother-in-law found out about it. My husband blabbed to her purely by accident, we did not want to tell her that he was sick. She immediately said she was going to come over right away. It was already pretty late in the evening, but she managed to catch the last bus (we live in the same city, but in a different neighborhood). Not much to do, my husband got out from under the covers and went to meet her, he couldn’t send me out to walk around the city at night when I was in my condition.
As soon as he stepped on the threshold of our apartment, my mother-in-law immediately began to give valuable instructions: airing is categorically impossible, it is a draft and you can get even more cold, because it is already quite cool outside. I was sent to get urgently steep boiling water at 12 o’clock at night, she said she brought some medicinal roots, which need to brew.
Then she sent me into another room, first I’m in her way, and secondly – I can get infected, and I can not get sick in my condition.
The next day my mother-in-law called his boss and despite my husband’s protests, demanded that he be released on sick leave, as he is very seriously ill and can not in such a condition to go to work. The boss tried to argue with her, but she just hung up on her.
You will find another job if you are not valued there! And no money can buy you a new health! But most importantly, she won’t let me anywhere near him. I bought him vitamins that his doctor recommended, but I listened to a whole lecture about their uselessness and chemical composition. I was sent to the store for apples, but I think that these foreign fruits will have more chemicals than the vitamins.
And I don’t feed him soup like that, I should feed him chicken broth when he has a cold, but my husband has hated chicken since childhood. And wet cleaning with bleach in the room should be done every hour to get the germs out. The main thing is that the smell of bleach doesn’t make my husband worse…
Of course I was upset. First – I’m actually a grown woman, and oh – I’m his wife, and I was not allowed to take care of her husband, they say young, I do not understand.
Now my husband all day lies quietly on the couch and watch movies on the phone, while I am running around like a madman at the drugstores in search of rare drugs, which, according to my mother-in-law, instantly put my husband on his feet. And no one cares that the money is running out, and these drugs my husband does not really drink. And the chicken broth from the stock soup kit makes me personally sick!
But what worries me the most is that very soon I am going to have a baby. And my mother-in-law is unlikely to change by then. After all, she’s probably going to want to treat our baby, and I’m pretty sure that my advice she is not going to ask. And it’s going to be my baby, not hers…
I already realized that we have a completely different approach to treatment, not for nothing it is written everywhere that the Soviet methods of treatment have long ceased to be relevant. So I have to literally fight with her, because I can hardly change her mind. I tried in the evening over dinner seriously talk to my mother-in-law on this topic, carefully so in general terms, so as not to hurt her feelings … But she wouldn’t even listen to me. She just cut me off and started asking where in our neighborhood homeopathic remedies are sold. That’s all we needed!
I asked my husband to ask her to go home gently. But he is afraid of her, and prefers to be silent and bear it. Okay, I am the daughter-in-law, but he is her own son, that he can not talk to her. After all, who is the man of the family?
And I’m also afraid that his boss really hasn’t found a replacement for him during his illness… What will we live on if he really gets fired? Will my mother-in-law help us with her meager pension? And I’m going to have a baby soon, and I’m nervous enough as it is…
