My family is falling apart and there is nothing I can do about it. But no one cares but me. And I’m honestly not sure that we should even try to save our marriage. I both work and take care of the house. And my mother-in-law accuses me that beside me my husband does not feel like a real man and so he drinks. And I did not want to take over the house and all the household chores. But I just had no other choice, because my husband can not cope with the role of the provider.
Three years ago I gave birth to a son. After I went on maternity leave, it turned out that we could not live on my husband’s salary alone. My husband did not help me at all, neither with the baby nor with household chores. But he requires me to make sure that the house is perfectly clean and that food is always prepared. I was doing pretty well, even with a little baby in my arms. But I could not change the fact that we did not have enough money that my husband earned. My mother-in-law and husband reproached me that I just did not know how to manage money properly.
– No matter how much money you get, you won’t get enough! – My husband used to say to me.
And my mother-in-law agreed with him. And the fact that my husband’s salary was only enough to pay the utilities and two weeks’ minimum groceries – neither my husband nor my mother-in-law were interested. And then my husband also picked up one very bad habit. He started buying himself beer and fish every day. Of course, I became indignant about it. I said that we could not afford such expenses and that it was not good for our health.
– I should have some joy in my life! Otherwise, only work and home! – My husband answered me.
So when my son was a year and a half old, I realized that this can not go on. I asked my mom to stay with our son on maternity leave. And I decided to get a job. My dad was still working, so they didn’t have money problems.
And my mother-in-law and husband started scolding me. They said I didn’t need the baby, that I’d dumped him off to my grandmother. My mother-in-law tells me that I do not respect her son and my behavior shows that he can not properly provide for his family. But he really is! I am tired of counting every penny and saving money on everything.
At work, I am doing great. Recently I was even promoted and got a raise. But my husband started drinking more and more. And I still do everything: household chores and taking care of the baby. Of course, my husband and I began to fight a lot because of this.
– What do I need a husband who doesn’t help me at all, but just lays on the couch and drinks beer and fish? – I once got indignant.
My husband got angry, packed his things, and went to live with his mother. The next day my mother-in-law came running to me and started scolding me for hurting her son. And the fact that I work, clean, cook, and look after our son – she is completely uninterested!
– You yourself are to blame for the fact that my son does not feel like a real man around you! You’re always scolding him for not making enough money! When he leaves you for good, you’ll know! – My mother-in-law told me.
I used to be terrified of the prospect of being a single mother, but not anymore. Now my husband still lives at his mom’s house. And I kind of like it. I’m very happy with my son. I don’t want my husband back at all. Most likely he and I will divorce in the near future …
