My phone is already “on fire” from the calls. Mom and mother-in-law demand that I forgive my cheating husband. They say a woman should be wise and save the marriage at any cost. I do not think so.
I have only been married for a year. Love and carrots have blurred my eyes. I just don’t have any other explanation. Initially, my husband couldn’t miss a single skirt, but I didn’t give it much thought. I hoped he would mend his ways, grow up, settle down.
After we got married, all my worries fell on me, even though my husband came home earlier. On weekends he would leave the house and go out “with his own company. You see, he gets tired, he needs a distraction and a change of scenery.
So I kept quiet. I didn’t like noisy parties myself, so I sat at home and watched my soap operas. Occasionally we would meet up with friends, but our meetings didn’t last more than an hour.
My mother and mother-in-law said that it was all right. They say men need rest, you can not keep them under the thumb. I listened and reeled in. Despite the fact that the example of the housewives I was not going to take, still listened to their advice.
Friends argued that spouses should rest together. If the husband loves, he should be there, not run off to friends. But I brushed aside and trusted the older generation. In vain.
A few months later I got pregnant. My husband was overjoyed and went to celebrate with his friends, not me. It was only then that foolish thoughts crept into my head, but my mother and mother-in-law reassured me again.
I was sad and lonely. My husband, even when he was home, was minding his own business. He and I didn’t talk, didn’t spend time together – we had nothing in common. When my mother-in-law found out that I was pressuring my husband and demanding attention, she started a scandal. You see, you can’t behave like that, otherwise she’ll leave. I immediately quieted down.
After the birth it only got worse. My husband sat on the glass. He didn’t even show up for the discharge. My parents and friends picked me up. My mother-in-law said that he was celebrating the birth of his son with his friends. You shouldn’t touch him, he’ll be back soon. Did her words make me feel better? I don’t know…
My husband was away for a few days. During that time some young girl started writing to me on social networks and telling me that her sister was romantically involved with my husband. She was sending me pictures and various proofs. The girl said she couldn’t keep quiet because she could see families falling apart because of their shenanigans.
It was like a veil had come off my eyes. He had been dating this person for a year. Why didn’t I notice before? I could smell the perfume, I could see that he was texting at night, that he didn’t even come home at night… I waited and I loved him. That same day I called a locksmith to change the lock and put my husband’s things in the stairwell. The apartment was mine – he had lived with his mother before we got married.
Two days later, my sweetheart showed up. He was picking the lock and trying to open it. And then he saw the suitcase, took it and went to my mom’s place. My mother-in-law started calling me. I didn’t even want to listen to her. I told her I was filing for divorce and hung up on her.
She came to see me the next day. I showed her all my correspondence and pictures. At first she kept saying it was all a setup. Then she started pressuring me. My relative manipulated my child who was going to grow up without a father. But that didn’t scare me. Better without a father than with a father like that. Especially since my son barely sees him.
Now I’m getting ready to get a divorce. And my mother and mother-in-law keep calling me and demanding that I forgive my husband. They say you have to forgive, that’s how everyone lives. And I didn’t find myself in a dumpster to watch my husband go out. I’m not destroying the family. We simply do not have one and never did.
