My parents live in Ukraine and I live in Russia.
We haven’t seen each other for over twenty years. They work as artists and sing in the folk choir, their whole life is nothing but touring. When I turned five, I started living with my grandmother. To make things a little easier for my grandmother, she had to move to her relatives in Kursk region. At first my mom and dad came to visit us two or sometimes three times a year, but then they began to visit us less and less often. Eventually I even stopped thinking about them. Then our communication finally broke off. When I was in medical school, I got married in my third year.
Now my husband and I have our own dental clinic and we make excellent money. Then a year ago, my father and mother showed up. They started calling the clinic because they didn’t even have my phone number. Our conversations with them consisted of them complaining about their lives.
I then listened to all their complaints and replied that they had chosen their own way that day, when they gave their daughter to her grandmother to raise. Sometimes my parents sent my grandmother some pennies, but mostly she and I lived on her pension. She repeatedly told me this, and I understood it myself, because she and I had to save money on everything.
I did very well in school, so I was able to go to school on budget. In order to have something to live on and get dressed, I worked in a hospital as a night nurse. Now I think that I have my own life, and my parents have their own life and let them do what they can.
After my daddy and mommy realized that I was not going to help them, they started telling me that they were going to file for alimony. However, given the current political situation between our two countries, I highly doubt that they will be able to achieve anything. Their words finally turned me away from them. If before I still somehow doubted the rightness of my decision and still thought about helping them financially, at this point I do not want to know anything about them. Do you think I’m right, or should I not do this to my parents?
