When a mother leaves her child with her husband and deals with her own problems, is that considered normal? But what about when that man has already become someone else’s husband? After all, that’s not how the situation looks anymore. A similar story happened to our reader. The woman has been desperate lately. How to get out of this situation?
She left her children with their father. Andrew could not be called a particularly cunning man. He was very attractive and had no problems communicating with women. He made acquaintances, started relationships, went for walks. Youth.
One day one of his ex-girlfriends called him and told him that he would soon be able to call himself a father. Then the guy decided that this was fate, and it was time to start his adult life. He dated Inna for about a month. Andrew offered her to live together, maybe they could establish a relationship and become a full-fledged family. He rented a nice apartment. They started to live together while waiting for a baby.
However, it did not work out to create a family. Andrew and Inna turned out to be completely different people. And the pregnancy of the girl did not smooth out, but only exacerbated the misunderstanding. When they had a daughter, Inna’s mother came to help the young parents. Now both women pressed on the young father to take more care of him and get attached to the baby.
Constant quarrels, resentments, tantrums, and clarification of relationships began. Inna went to live with her parents. Andrew helped her with money.
A few weeks passed, and Andrew met a beautiful girl. They immediately fell in love with each other. They settled in her small apartment. Six months later they got married. This girl turned out to be Alina, that is me. When we celebrated the wedding, Andrew could not give the money to Inna, and she made a scandal.
Andrew did not hide anything from me. He almost immediately told me that he had a daughter. As soon as we got married Inna started writing to Andrew regularly that his daughter missed her father very much. He said he should visit the little girl more often and the best thing was to spend the night with them. I wasn’t against him sending money to his child and visiting her, but I asked my husband to do it during the day and not to stay overnight.
But one day Inna came to our house in a cab with the baby and her things. She handed the baby Andrew and said that now it’s his turn to raise her daughter, and she has to deal with her personal life. After all, he had already made his!
It turned out that Inna fought with his mother and moved to a friend. Now she has no one to leave the child with. On the phone Inna said she planned to leave her daughter with us for a few days until she herself is settled.
It has been two weeks already! We borrowed a crib from a neighbor, bought baby formula, cereal, toys, diapers. At least her mother left her clothes. I do not understand how she can treat her own daughter this way. Inna told us to be patient until she got her life together.
I wanted to find advice and support on forums, but there I was scolded by everyone. They say I am so lucky, and I am not happy and do not understand my happiness. They advise me to take the baby as my own and not to give her back to her mother, and to raise her together with her husband. I am the only one who is going to have my own baby. But so far the three of us aren’t enough room in my apartment. So I’m confused. I hope I get some helpful advice here. I shudder to think how we’re going to live.
