I grew up in a family with only my mother and grandmother. I never got a man’s upbringing, my father left my mother and never took any interest in me. Raised by women, I tried to always be strong and independent. That’s what they taught me. And then I studied hard and worked. At 27, I already bought my own apartment by my own means. And then a new question arose – how to deal with relationships.
I went out with guys, but when they heard that I had my own place, they immediately saw me not as a girl or a woman, but for material gain, to solve their financial problems. I wasn’t satisfied with that kind of thing. I wanted to be loved for my personality, not for what I had.
So when I met Vladik and we started dating, he came to visit me, I told him that I was renting a place. I wanted to see how he would treat me, whether we could build a relationship if I had nothing and he had nothing. At the same time, Vladik told me that it wasn’t a problem that I didn’t have a place to live. He would try to earn and save to buy us a place to live together. I liked this approach of his. And while we lived together for two years, Vladik really did save money.
And now we are about to have a wedding. After the wedding right away Vladik plans to buy an apartment for us, and my conscience torments me. All this time I have been deceiving him, taking money for rent. Should I now confess to him?
My grandmother and mother say that it is not necessary to confess. Let myself have my apartment just in case, and a man should bring his wife to his place. But how do you start married life with a lie?
