My boyfriend and I are dating for more than a year. Recently he proposed to me, which I accepted. Before that we could not live together, but after we decided to get married he offered to stay with his parents while they were on vacation.
The first time everything was just perfect. I liked the role of a wife, and I took care of my beloved all the time: I cooked, cleaned, did laundry. During the time I lived with my boyfriend, he only helped me clean up a couple of times. His position is that a man should earn money, and the wife’s job is to be the keeper of the family home and provide comfort in the house. I was even partly happy about this attitude, since my beloved’s salary is much higher than mine, but I was frightened by his mother’s nagging.
Before my future in-laws returned home, I thoroughly cleaned the whole house, cooked and baked a cake. However, I was astonished when my boyfriend told me that his mother called me a slob for not cleaning the toilet and bathtub, for not cleaning the kitchen before they arrived, and she called my cake unfit to eat.
I was very upset when he told me all this, because I wanted his mother to have an impression of me as a good hostess, so I cleaned the whole apartment to a shine. Of course, if you want to, you can pick on everything, but I’m sure that my boyfriend’s mother did it just to humiliate me in front of her son. If I were her, any other hostess would be grateful that I put her house in perfect order.
Not long ago my husband-to-be was excited about getting married, but now I think he’s lost any desire to marry me. I have no idea what I have to do before he and his parents can accept me into their family. Now I sit and think that maybe I made a rash decision when I decided to marry this man, because even if I failed to please his mother despite my best efforts, then what should I expect from him? If she’s so hostile to me, she’s going to keep harassing me with her nagging.
Now I think I overdid it with wanting my future in-laws to like me and I should have acted like a guest in their house, i.e. do nothing! Before all this, my boyfriend offered to stay at his parents’ house for a while so that we could save up for our own place, but after his mother’s words I wouldn’t set foot in her house!
