I am 28 years old. I have been living in a common-law marriage for three years with Alex whom I love very much. I consider him my husband. But, of course, I dream of a real wedding. Things are going very well with Alex. But I really don’t like the fact that Alex still hasn’t asked me to be his wife. I do so dream about it! I often get asked by our friends and my girlfriends when we are going to get married.
I just say that we’re doing great and we’re not getting married yet. But we’re really not. I want to get married and officially be Alex’s wife, not just be his roommate. But I don’t dare tell Alex that. I think it’s up to Alex to ask me to marry him. Or maybe he doesn’t want me to be his wife and the mother of his children.
And recently I went to a fortune teller. This woman told me that Alex is only living with me because it’s convenient for him. And as soon as he finds a more suitable woman, he’ll just leave me and that’s it. I never believed in fortune-tellers, but the words of this woman were on my mind.
All of my friends are already married. They all have children, and some of them even have two children. So my friends tell me that I have to get Alex pregnant. They say that then he will definitely marry me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to force him into marriage.
My mother is strongly against it. She says that a child will never keep a man near a woman unless he himself wants to be with the woman. But I’m tired of waiting for Alex to ask me to marry him. I’m waiting for three whole years, but it has not happened.
What should I do? Wait some more, or will I still decide to do what my friends offer me?
