My mother-in-law resents us because we went on vacation and didn’t pay for her repairs. Her apartment is nice, in good condition – it is purely her whim to update the furnishings. She thinks we are spenders, although she could have helped herself.
My husband and I are very frugal. We’re paying our own mortgage and raising two high school kids. In all the years we’ve been married, this summer we went to the sea for the first time.
When we were married, we could only vacation in the woods or at the cottage. Our kids hadn’t seen anything, so we decided to buy a trip to the Crimea. We had to tighten our belts, but it was worth it.
My mother-in-law said right after the wedding that she would not babysit the grandchildren. I took it into account, I didn’t even ask her for help. So all the vacations and weekends the children have to spend at the cottage with my parents, because my husband and I work. I did not condemn her desire, because I understand that raising two children is already a feat. My mother-in-law is retired and has every right to rest.
She enrolled in the swimming pool, goes on some excursions and exhibitions. In general, to this day she has a very active and busy life. There was only one problem – financial security. All of her wants had to be sponsored by her children, to the detriment of her own family. She didn’t care about loans, mortgages, children – mom had to be helped.
On top of that, every weekend she handed out tasks to her husband: fetch, help, take, fix. And this year she lost her sanity altogether – she wanted to freshen up the repairs. Each of us wants something, but it does not always get done. Right? Moreover, 5 years ago we already did repairs, everything looked fresh and beautiful.
My mother-in-law did not know that we were going to the sea. In principle, we were not going to put it in the know, wanted to close the apartment and leave. So we did.
However, during our absence she came to our house. When she found the door closed she called her husband and he told her we were in the Crimea. She hung up, and upon our return there was a real scandal waiting for us.
– You could have warned me? And in general, mortgagees, where did you get the money? I should have had repairs done, not to travel to resorts.
Her husband is usually silent and does not contradict her mother, but not this time. He reminded her that she had nothing to do with his money.
My mother-in-law hasn’t kept in touch with us since. She doesn’t even call her grandchildren. But other relatives call us and tell us how bad we are. My husband and I do not admit our guilt. And my parents support us. We need to relax while we are young, especially since my in-laws needed the money for a whim, not for something serious.
