My wife has wealthy parents who know that Anna and I have been raising money for our own home for several years. At this point in life, this is our most important goal. I still don’t understand why for so many years they never once offered to help us financially, since they always had enough money. We, in turn, live modestly, saving on everything, and even in this situation we cannot save up for the cheapest version of an apartment.
I married Anna for love, not because her parents are rich. We both work and live in a rented apartment that we moved into right after we got married. We want to have a baby, but precisely because we don’t have our own place, we had to give up that desire.
On my birthday Anna’s parents came to visit us. All my mother-in-law’s talk boiled down to the question: when can we expect a new addition to our family? My father-in-law also chimed in with the idea of pleasing his parents with a grandchild. I answered that we were not going to have a child until we had our own place to live, and we did not have enough money for an apartment. No one understood my hint, or they just pretended not to understand.
Some time later my wife surprised me with the news that she was pregnant.
We immediately shared the news with my wife’s parents. They were very happy, and that was the end of it. My wife and I were expecting to get help after that, but my parents made it clear they were not going to give us money to buy an apartment.
Anna says that they have always had money, because they have their own business. Her father-in-law recently put his apartment up for sale and bought a plot of land outside the city. They are probably going to build a new house with a large lot.
Of course, we hoped that before the baby was born, the grandparents-to-be would wake up their conscience and offer to help us buy our own home. That’s what many parents do, some even shoulder the burden of a mortgage if there is no other way to help their children. But these parents could easily add the right amount to our savings, and we would have our own place.
We will never forgive my wife’s parents for not helping us during such a difficult time in our lives! We would bring our newborn daughter to a rented apartment, but we would not allow our grandparents to see their granddaughter. They made their choice!
What do you think?
