My spouse is very soft and he is completely incapable of standing up for himself. Because of his softness, all of his relatives, bosses and friends ride him. If my spouse’s relatives and friends I can somehow put him in his place from time to time, I can’t do anything about his bosses. I can only advise, but my advice is useless.
When I married my husband, I was well aware that I married a very calm man, but that he is a soft and insecure man, I did not even know. Somehow, before the wedding there were no situations that would show me that I was marrying a wuss. Then, of course, I clutched my head, but it was impossible to change anything.
My spouse has a very authoritarian mother, who completely subjugated her son and daughter. My daughter was lucky in that she married a military pilot and went with him to God knows what Tmutarakan. However, I have to confront my overactive mother-in-law from time to time.
After buying a car, my husband became the personal driver of my mother and all her sisters. No one was interested in his opinion. He would rush to his mother’s house at her first request, even if we had our own business to attend to.
Even the day after the wedding my husband and I woke up to a phone call from his mother, who said that she had to go to the fair, or they would take all the seedlings she needed. At that time we hadn’t had time to buy a car yet, so she needed her husband as a porter. I had to fight with his family for dear life to protect his interests.
His mates were also in trouble. But it was a stretch to call these hangers-on friends, for they only thought of my husband when they needed a loan of money or some kind of help from him. Once again, I had to discourage these spongers.
At work, by some fateful coincidence, all the brain-breaking tasks went to my spouse. If it was necessary to work on the weekend, to go on a business trip, it was again my spouse for that. However, if they shared the premiums, he was always out.
I have repeatedly talked to him, but it does not give any result. He nods his head during the conversation and agrees, and then runs to fulfill all the whims of his mommy, friends or superiors.
I have to be the real scarecrow in our family. I am constantly repulsed by the whole crowd of freeloaders, which spouse is always sitting on his neck. But I am so tired, I want to be “behind the husband” and not have my back to my spouse.
What angers me the most is my spouse’s muttering, “But how can I say no?” “With my mouth, honey, with my mouth! That’s what everyone does!” You just have to say, “No!” Imagine, that’s what people do! However, the husband can not decide, and I’m tired already carrying a sword to the front lines.
In fact, my husband is an excellent specialist, but he has such an attitude to work can not build a career. However, I began to notice that I recently, as the last hysterical wind up with half a turn. I wasn’t like this before we were married, I’ve been like this for two years of married life.
Now I gave my husband a trial period. I told him that if he doesn’t open his mouth, he will be single in a month.
