And the fact that my daughter-in-law’s mother comes to visit him very rarely and doesn’t help her with the young children at all doesn’t interest my daughter-in-law. When my son married Laura, I was fine with my daughter-in-law. I understood perfectly well that my son had grown up and it was time for him to start a family. I never asked my daughter-in-law for advice. We communicated only on holidays. My daughter-in-law and son worked a lot, so we saw each other very rarely. And then, when my oldest granddaughter was born, I started helping my daughter-in-law. I understood how difficult it was for her with a small child.
I offered to help Laura, and she didn’t refuse. I would come after work and help with the baby. But Laura’s mother didn’t rush to help her. But I didn’t say anything so as not to spoil relations with my daughter-in-law. Two years later Laura had another baby girl. Of course, I now helped my daughter-in-law even more. And when she was pregnant for the second time, she often felt very bad, so she would not have been able to cope with the older girl on her own.
Of course, it’s hard with my sister-in-law’s two young children, and so I continue to help her. And recently I saw her mother come to see her. The matchmaker drank tea, ate all the cakes she had brought and left. And then a year ago her daughter-in-law had to go to work. But the children had nowhere to go, so my daughter-in-law asked me to retire so she could go to work. Of course, I didn’t want to do that. I know how hard it is to take care of two small children. But my son talked me into it.
For a whole year my daughter-in-law and son brought me the kids. Sometimes even when they were sick. Then it was very difficult for me to be with them, because they were very naughty. And I had to cook for them, play with them in the fresh air, entertain them, read them books. Of course, I got very tired of it. I had long wanted to do repairs in my apartment. I asked my son and daughter-in-law to help me. But my daughter-in-law refused me.
– We don’t have enough money as it is! We have two children! So we can not help you with the repairs! – My daughter-in-law told me.
– But I look after your children! I feed them at my own expense, and buy them everything! – I was surprised.
– So? Now I should be grateful to you? But they are your granddaughters! – Sister-in-law outraged.
And I was very surprised: because her mother does not help her in any way, and it is considered normal. Isn’t my daughter-in-law’s mother a grandmother? I think I did a wonderful job as a grandmother. I have decided that I am not going to help my daughter-in-law and my son that much anymore. And I will come to my granddaughters whenever I want and that’s it. If no one owes anyone anything, that’s the way we’ll live.
Of course, my son apologized to me later. But it doesn’t make any difference to me anymore. I was very tired of feeding and treating my granddaughters at my own expense. And in the end, when I asked for help, I was refused. I will save up the money myself and make repairs to my apartment. And let my son and daughter-in-law take care of their children themselves!
