I dated my husband for three years before I got married, and we have been married for two years.
My spouse is my first and only man. I never even looked at other men. But my spouse was very jealous. My pregnancy was planned. My husband and I were over the moon when the test showed two lines. My husband had always dreamed of a son and was sure from the first day of pregnancy that it was going to be a boy. He and I were beyond surprised when we were told at the ultrasound that we were going to have a daughter.
After the ultrasound, my husband began to suspect that I was unfaithful to him. He was proving to me that their family is a “strong seed” because of which only boys are born. In fact, my husband has no sisters, only brothers, and his father has no sisters either. However, a woman and chance are responsible for the sex of the child, so I really wanted to punch him in the biology textbook. I had hoped all through my pregnancy that we would have a son against all odds. But the doctors were right and we had a daughter, whom we named Maria.
My spouse pretended to be happy about having a daughter, but he didn’t do it very well. He started talking more and more about the baby not being his. Not only him, but his in-laws were talking about it. I was very offended by their ridiculous suspicions. Another serious problem was that my daughter looked nothing like her father. My husband was a brown-eyed brunette, and my daughter was born blue-eyed and with blond hair, she was an exact copy of me in her childhood years. As I got older, my genes took over. I had to explain to my beloved not a day why my daughter was born with such an appearance. However, I still could not convince him of his loyalty.
So it lasted more than four months. I no longer had any strength to argue with him and prove something to him. Then suddenly everything stopped and he turned into a loving father. I thought he had calmed down and come to terms with the fact that my daughter had adopted my appearance. But there was something else.
For my daughter’s birthday party invited a bunch of guests, most of whom were relatives of the spouse. The older my daughter became, the more she looked like me, which of course did not escape the attention of her husband. My in-laws poured oil on the fire every day with their talk about him raising an impregnated child. One day my husband lost his nerve, and he told them he was one hundred percent sure that his daughter was his own, because he had taken a paternity test.
In the evening, I had a conversation with my husband about it, and he admitted to me that he had taken a DNA test when our baby girl was four months old. The test showed that Maria was his daughter. My husband decided not to tell me anything about it. After that, I realized why his behavior had changed so drastically, and I had hoped that he had just fallen in love with our baby girl. I felt so hurt, and I even felt like a whole pile of garbage had been poured on me. I mean, how could he not trust me, that he even took a paternity test. So it turns out that he really suspected me of cheating. Then how are we going to get on with our lives? Over the years his distrust will only grow stronger and if in this case I was able to prove that I was innocent, in another case he may not even want to listen to me.
I was so shocked by his behavior that my opinion of my spouse changed drastically. I became so disgusted, and I realized that I couldn’t live my whole life next to a man who didn’t trust me. Yes the daughter is his, but his behavior just shows that he doesn’t care about what I say.
After all this I decided to file for divorce. My husband was shocked by my decision. He tried to explain his actions, but I wouldn’t listen to him, just like he wouldn’t listen to me a year ago. His whole family said I was crazy, that this was no reason to get a divorce, that I would bitterly regret what I had done. My parents didn’t understand me either, but they still let me go home. I’m not going to spend my life making excuses to a man who may seem like God knows what. I’d rather raise our child on my own than live my whole life in fear!
What do you think the girl did right or wrong?
