I sat and wondered for a long time after my husband left me for another woman. We are both 60 years old. My husband left me for a 42 year old woman. Now I am not in a relationship and I don’t want to start a new one. I don’t need one, thanks, already had enough of them.
The first thing is to love yourself.
I realized that I didn’t love myself. Here’s the truth. I was trying for the most part to take care of my husband, my kids. I thought that a good wife – is the one who will cook, and laundry, and listen. But it turned out that no one needed that. You have to be a little selfish in marriage. You need to voice your desires and demands. Otherwise, the man gets used to the fact that he is the king. And in fact, next to the king should be a queen, not a servant (in my case it was the second option).
Secondly, my husband is not the only person in the world. There is another life besides her husband.
My mistake was also that I spent a lot of time with my husband. As the saying goes, the world had come to a standstill with him. I should have had my own life, my own hobbies. Then there would have been more respect and more fear of losing me.
Thirdly, if a man leaves, you can breathe out and start living for yourself
If a man leaves, it’s his decision. There is no need to ever force anyone to stay. No need to beg to keep the family for the sake of children, for the sake of what people will think and so on. Let them think for themselves. They will talk about you for 5 minutes and then stop, and you move on. So if the man left, then it’s time to live and breathe on (and try to enjoy life).
Fourth, do not forgive if he asks you back.
If a man has made the decision to leave, walk around and beg back, then leave him out on the doorstep. Betrayed once – will betray another one, and a second and third times. You have to respect yourself and not turn into a doormat.
Fifth – do not look for another man, just not to be alone.
You don’t have to make the even sillier mistake of looking for another man right away. Why? Loneliness can be wonderful, too. Why create the appearance of a relationship? Of course, if you suddenly come across a good man – you need to take (as they say). And if not, you have to learn to live alone.
