I had my first child six months ago. And after that my life turned into a real nightmare. Both my husband and I had been waiting for our firstborn for a very long time. And when we found out about my impending pregnancy, we were overjoyed. We had been trying to have a baby for two whole years, and here was such a joy!
It was only after the baby was born that my husband became unhinged. He doesn’t want to help me, doesn’t want to support me, is constantly picking on me, and in general he started to be mean.
Recently I somehow managed to break a mug with cold tea in it. Nothing special – a domestic incident. It would seem, why be nervous? But he decided to fight about it, too. All night he was bringing me up, calling me names, saying that my hands don’t grow from there. And if it was about a child?
I’d happen to eat his chocolate. He wouldn’t talk to me for three days. After I ask him to baby-sit for a few minutes while I am busy doing something, he remembers that ill-fated chocolate bar again and scolds me. He does not allow me to go to the store, but he always buys there only what he wants, not what I ask for. And if there is something missing in the house, it’s only my fault and nothing else.
You see, I can’t take a bath – only a quick rinse under the shower. He argues that water is expensive these days. And the baby can not be left without mother’s care for a long time.
If I want to invite a friend to our house, he resents me. Although he’s not here until 9 p.m. After all, he always goes to the gym after work. On the weekends he takes long naps and then he goes somewhere. I don’t know.
I’m sick of it all. I can’t understand how he turned from a caring husband into an indifferent and completely alien person. And all this has to do with the birth of the child he wanted so much. No support and understanding.
Divorce? You can always do that. I continue to work, although on maternity leave. We still have different budgets. I don’t think I have enough money for rent. As soon as I started getting child support, my husband immediately split our budgets. Despite the fact that I assured him, gave him arguments – it will not work out to live on this paltry sum for me and the child. Only he is stubborn and aggressive.
Now he began to talk about a second child. That the years go by, we are not getting younger. And in general it will be better when the children are one year old. I do not want anything after this attitude. There is hope that after the second child he will soften a little, become kinder and gentler.
And what would you advise to do in a similar case? I am at a loss. One might even say depressed. I want to return to our old relationship, which I bragged about before the birth of a child. But how do I do that?
