Last weekend my wife and I went to her parents’ house for family dinner. Just then we had a misunderstanding. It started out as usual, we sat around the table and talked about all sorts of things. But somehow it all came down to the fact that I need to change jobs, and this topic was raised by my wife.
This topic was not entirely unreasonable. The fact is that recently the question arose of building a bathhouse for parents. We have long wanted to carry out this plan, but this year my wife decided that there was no point in waiting any longer.
That said, we were going to upgrade the car before winter as needed. And in summer we planned to go to the sea, since we were not there for 3 years. The most important is that in our family, only I worked.
I was happy with such an arrangement (I mean my job, I’m not complaining). But because of the understandable circumstances at work now the firm has some difficulties, so part of the employees were reduced, and the remaining reduced wages for an indefinite period of time.
Accordingly, my wife, I made it clear that we have savings. But they will be enough for a modest trip to the sea, and, if there is no price hike, for a car in the most budgetary package, which we were considering.
She, in turn, prioritized the bath for parents above our plans. I did not approve of this position, the conversation ended with her reproaching my laziness and unwillingness to find a new job so that the family has enough for everything.
I did not like it, and then I strictly said that such decisions were and remain my own. You could say that we never came to a compromise. In fact, at the table the same story happened again. I could not calmly respond and pointedly told my spouse that her parents are already receiving substantial assistance from us every month. In the heat of the moment I said that the entire table is probably set almost at my expense.
I shouldn’t have done that, but there was no going back. At that moment I had sour cream in my hand, and that’s where my spouse started her emotional speech. She was so offended, that I heard a lot of interesting things about myself. I did not listen for a long time, silently left to our apartment.
There I gathered my wife’s things and brought them back to her parents. I think because of such nonsense my wife should not make such conversations and behave this way, I think it is unacceptable. Now I am back home, it is hard to think about something, I decided to share in the article.
