My husband’s mother is a big liar. She basically does not care what to brag about, as long as she feels like a queen. This woman was sure that she was the best hostess, cook, woman and employee and therefore simply could not be replaced at work, and besides everything else, she had perfect taste and was always fashionably dressed. I got tired of her bragging back when we were living with her after we got married. And it’s not at all clear why her husband left her so perfect. I guess he couldn’t live next to such an ideal.
As soon as she found out we were having a baby, she immediately declared that she was going to be the best grandmother ever. At the time, my spouse and I had just bought our own place with a mortgage. Every time the grandmother-to-be came to see us, she showed us pictures of what she was planning to buy our child. She would show us pictures posted on some website and every time she would say: “I’ll just save some money and buy it.” But my mother-in-law never bought anything.
When the baby and I were discharged, my mother did not come to the discharge, as it was just her shift at the store. She just called and congratulated and promised that she would stop by this weekend. We bought everything we needed for our son ourselves, when my husband’s mother found out, she pretended to be very upset, but then said she would figure something out.
A month later she gave us a scrapbooking photo album called “Our Baby.” This album was made by a friend of my husband’s mother. The gift looked very nice, but nowadays photos are mostly stored on digital media. That day my mother-in-law played with the baby for half an hour, promised me that she would come by on weekends so my husband and I could rest, and then she left and we didn’t see her for three months.
I should say that I and my husband’s parent live in one city, though at different ends. It takes my mother-in-law about an hour to get from home to us, but that’s no reason to forget about us. Of course we can communicate by video link, but we can’t leave the baby with my mother-in-law by video link. I then asked my husband’s mother to come over because my mother was sick and we wanted to go to the movie theater for a movie premiere and then stop by to see friends for a while. She arrived at the beginning of April, spent the night and left in the early hours of the morning.
Then she made a reference to the fact that she couldn’t come because of the pandemic and self-isolation. It went on for a year. She came to visit us only after my husband invited her in an ultimatum. She brought a gorgeous present: winter overalls and boots for her grandson, as well as a developing mat. Understandably, she had time to save up. Then her sister and her husband came to visit, and she invited us over. We decided to go to visit my mother-in-law without the baby, my mother stayed with my son.
The funniest thing started after I went to make coffee and my spouse went out for a smoke. At that time I overheard my mother-in-law telling my sister: “I don’t even know how they would cope without me, because I buy them groceries, and help with their grandson, and from time to time I give them money, they thank me all the time.
At first I couldn’t believe my ears, couldn’t she wait until we left to tell me all this. My nerves failed, and I said: “Mom, why are you telling tales, you’ve only been to us four times this year. You are not too worried about your grandson, and my parents help us.
Now I understand that I did it in vain, but at that time everything inside me was just bubbling over. She started blatantly lying and making excuses to her family at the same time, complaining that she had not come to see us for a while because of the pandemic. But despite this, even at the slightest opportunity, she bought her grandson presents and gave them to him. I didn’t question what she said; I felt bad enough as it was. I can’t stand deceivers and hypocrites, and my mother-in-law turned out to be just such a person, so I stopped all communication with her.
