I am sure that my husband is a stubborn donkey with a complete lack of logic, because his idea of investing in something that nobody needs is completely absurd. Many years ago, my husband wanted to sell our apartment in the city and use the money to buy a house in the suburbs. At the time his idea seemed tempting to me, but years later I regretted it deeply, and the reasons were very serious.
The most unpleasant thing was that such a house was very difficult to maintain. We knew nothing about how to use the two-circuit boiler, which all the time we had to heat, as gas was not connected to the house at that time. At first glance, everything was just fine: we had hot water, the house was always warm, but the spouse did not actually get out of the boiler room in the basement. Another unpleasant surprise was that where we bought a house completely lacked all the amenities to which we are accustomed. The main entertainment in the village was the transmission of gossip, life there as if frozen and there was no momentum. An unpleasant surprise was that apart from the fact that the house itself had to be taken care of, the garden itself had to be cared for. We had been living in a private house for over fifteen years and I still could not get used to this way of life.
My children, when they grew up, went to different cities to study and stayed there, and now they all have their own families. Our son and his wife took out a mortgage and our daughter married a guy who had his own place. Now my husband and I are already grandparents. The time will come and we will need to leave our children something to inherit. Except we don’t have anything to leave! Except the house we live in? They will sell it immediately and share the money, but my husband is sure of the opposite, he hopes that our children will use our house as a summer house, so he decided to make it a real palace. However, in order to make his crazy idea a reality, a lot of money is needed.
In order to put gas in the house, my husband took out an insurmountable loan. In our house all the time undergoing some kind of construction work: he changes the roof, the walls insulated, the extension does, is engaged in internal finishing works. My spouse spends all his pension and salary on the house, and besides all the time he pulls something from my pension. I won’t say that we starve, but our rations are quite modest.
We live on my pension and salary, as I do not allow my money to spend on his crazy ideas. More than once I have persuaded my husband to live at least a little for himself, to go to the sea in the summer or to fly abroad. But every time he looked at me like I was crazy and said that we had so much work to do, and that I was doing nothing.
I wanted to make the children my allies, I tried to explain to them that their father was doing nothing, because other people would get the house. I asked the kids what they planned to do with the house, they confirmed they would sell. I started asking them to talk to their father, but they don’t even want to hear about it because they are afraid of offending him. They are sure he lives by this construction and call it insanity, his hobby. Who knew how much my husband’s hobby was costing me!
Once my daughter took pity on me and tried to talk to her father. However, then the spouse yelled at her so much that I thought he was going to break the phone, he even threatened her that if they dared to sell his properties, he would get them from the grave. Why can’t my spouse understand that none of our children and grandchildren would want to live in this neck of the woods.
I don’t know what words to use to get through to my spouse? I even suggested my husband to sell our house, and the proceeds to buy two apartments: one we can live in, and the second will rent. I wouldn’t have to spend money on construction, I could even quit my job, we would travel, but my husband reproaches me for being selfish and for dreaming of an easy life. Yes, I dream of at least living for myself in my old age! I don’t want all of my spouse’s efforts to go to other people. I am very offended. But my spouse doesn’t even want to hear anything and lives only for his ideas.
