– Why is the addition again delayed? You were planning a baby, right? When are you going to give me a grandchild? But we need to expand – the studio is very small, – she wouldn’t let up in her mother-in-law.
Barbara was firmly convinced that we do not have a complete family. You see, if you’re married – must immediately give birth. She told me about her desire to have grandchildren when we first met. My relative told me how sorry she was that she had only one child, she hoped there would be more grandchildren.
My husband is a love child. My mother-in-law was widowed early and devoted all her love to her son. That’s why he grew up to be a tender and vulnerable creature, completely unadjusted to life.
– You’re different from him. He’s an intellectual, a scientist. He doesn’t get out of his books, and you’re lively and active, – my friends said.
That’s really true. My husband is a mathematician. He teaches at the institute, is famous in his circles, but the income from his work is paltry. But I knew what I was signing up for, so I didn’t demand anything from him. I know how to make a living – that’s not the main thing.
I got married at a mature age – I was already 27. I had a prestigious job, an apartment and a car. I had no mortgages. My husband lived with my mother: my mother-in-law protected him from any trouble. After another questioning of my mother-in-law about her grandchildren, I told her:
– You will have grandchildren. When we earn money for a new apartment, expand, then we’ll talk.
If we could set something aside from my salary, my husband’s salary was barely enough to cover all his expenses. Routine work alone is exhausting, everyone knows that. I decided to take a vacation.
– Honey, I need to go on vacation, I’m running out of energy,” I told my husband.
– Of course, go. Rest, relax. I can not go with you, because I have a dissertation.
I went, only I was not released. I began to think even more about the fact that something has to change. Then I decided to open my own business and not to work for my uncle.
– Is it bad for you? What’s wrong with your one-bedroom? But you have to look at yourself. Work should bring not only income, but also pleasure – said my husband.
And so it happened. My income fell at first, but still I earned more than my husband. My husband did not even notice it – he just wanted the students to pass the session. We decided to postpone the issue of childbearing for a few years, only my mother-in-law did not agree.
– We would have a baby when we were ready. I do not want to sell my apartment, we should save for a common, – I tried to reassure her.
After the first scandal, my relative started trying to persuade us to take out a mortgage. And who will pay it, if I’m going to sit with a child? My mother-in-law? I want to consciously come to this and raise my child by myself.
Not only that, she started coming to our house every day and pestering me about my grandchildren. I cringe at the word “kids. I can’t ignore her – she will climb out on her head just to get through to me.
My husband is not bothered by this at all, and I am already on the verge. That’s how to solve this family conflict? Do you have any ideas?
