Many men often complain about their mother-in-law. But my colleague has a better relationship with his wife’s mother than with his own. I once asked him what the secret was, and he told me that when he chose a wife, he also looked at his mother-in-law. At first it seemed to him that his mother-in-law would not give them life because she was lonely.
Even though the mother-in-law lived alone, she did not interfere in the young family’s life at all. His wife chirped with her on the phone every day, but her mother-in-law came only on holidays. After the birth of my grandson nothing changed. She did not give out advice, did not teach her wisdom, and only came to babysit after permission was given. She bought toys, clothes, helped out if she had to leave the baby, but she did not even think of imposing. She was always smiling and polite.
Once my co-worker was going to the seaside with his wife, but he wanted to leave his son with his mother-in-law. And this is what she told him:
– I can look after him, it’s not hard for me. But when else can you take your 3-year-old son to the sea? Only now. He will be four in a year, time will not go back. You’ll miss such a wonderful opportunity to build with him the first sand castle and splash in the sea water. And the years go by… At 15 he will go to the sea without you. What will warm you in your old age, if there are no memories? It is, of course, your right, but your son also has the right to see the sea for the first time with his father. Make no mistake.
He thought about it and remembered how he spent every summer vacation in the countryside. His parents were busy working, and then his father had a stroke. And no memories remained… They all went to the sea together. The next year, too.
That was the lesson my mother-in-law taught my son-in-law.
