I live in St. Petersburg, and my girlfriend lives in the neighboring city – Veliky Novgorod. My profession is a car repairman. We met by chance, that’s how our love story began. Every time we spent time together, we got closer to each other every time. Now we feel very badly, for we are separated. Going through a hard time. I would love to go to her, but for now I can’t leave work and business to move in with my girlfriend.
Before, my girlfriend wasn’t that upset about the distance between us and was just waiting for things to get better. Now, when we talk on a video call or just on the phone, she always begs me at the end to move into her house, because she is very lonely and sad. But I just can’t give it all up…
My son by my first wife also lives in the city where I live now. During the trial, I wanted to be allowed to see my son at least once a week, but I can’t just leave everything and then go away. I don’t want my son to forget his daddy. I think you would agree that it is very hard to be separated from your child and then see him once every two months or even less often. In the city where my girlfriend lives, it is very difficult to find a job with a good salary.
It occurred to me that I could move her in with me and then everything would be fine, but she categorically refused, because in her hometown she works as a teacher, and who she would work for in St. Petersburg, she does not know at all. Because of arguments like this we can’t solve the problem of distance and who is going to move in with whom. Lately we’ve even been fighting. This can all lead to a breakup, which we both don’t want.
One day, the girl started a conversation: It’s very hard for me without you, we hardly even see each other, leave everything as it is and go to my place, I don’t want a long-distance relationship, it’s just awful…
I was very annoyed at the time because I was very tired during the week, and then I just hung up the phone. Apparently she was pissed at me then too and wouldn’t get in touch with me for a couple of days. A couple of days later she picks up the phone and says: I had a lot to do, so I didn’t have time to do everything, much less pick up the phone.
It would be hard for me to part with her and I’m trying to prevent that, at the same time I want to be with my son, because I don’t want to leave him alone with his mother either. Maybe someday it will happen that I will have to choose between her and my child, in any case, my choice will stop at my son, because he is my own. I will be very upset then, because I will lose my love. But I will never leave my son, I love him more than I love my girlfriend.
