I’m sure we don’t have to support my brother-in-law and his family at all and rent a place for them. I want to tell you right away that I own the three bedroom apartment we live in, and I bought it in a terrible condition before we were married. So you can imagine her condition I will say that the front door was just leaned against the doorway. The main thing is that I was satisfied with its price, and the rest I did gradually. But that’s not what I wanted to talk about.
At the time of meeting my husband, I had already made repairs in two rooms, and even installed some furniture. On the whole, the apartment was already comfortable and warm.
My spouse was handsome, stately, and lived in a rented apartment. A couple of months after we met, he came to live with me. After we got married, we made a nursery in one of the rooms and had first a baby boy and then a baby girl.
Everything was going great until our family idyll one cold autumn night was not violated by my mother-in-law. She came over that day with suitcases and all in tears:
– Can I stay with you for a while? My son brought a girl into my apartment. I hope that everything will work out between them, or maybe she will be his fate and they will live together till the old age… I won’t stay long, I’ll help you, take your children from kindergarten and school, cook food for them. I have no one but you!
She cried, so we let her in. We gave her the biggest room. The husband’s mother retired a long time ago, she nursed the children, as she promised, but she did not show her face in her own place, because her youngest son was making a life for himself there. He lived in his mother-in-law’s one-room apartment with his young wife and two children: they gave birth to one, and his wife already had one.
Many years ago, brother-in-law married a schoolgirl right after school, after which my parents-in-law sold their apartment and used the proceeds to buy themselves a one-bedroom apartment, and a two-bedroom for their son. Then my father-in-law began to get sick and the apartment, which was to go to my husband sold to treat his father, but the doctors could not do anything.
My brother-in-law and his wife had two children, and then they divorced and he left his home to his family. Now his first wife lives in his apartment with her new spouse and three children.
After the divorce, the son went back to his mother. He told her then:
– Mom, I’m going to take a little break, clean my feathers, and fly away! I am now a free man, and now I dream a lot! However, something did not go well with him. Maybe he did not have time to clean his feathers, or maybe there was no tailwind; anyway, a few months later he brought his new wife to her mother.
When my brother-in-law’s first wife was on vacation, my mother-in-law brought his children from his first marriage and his second wife’s child to stay with us every weekend. And there were days when she also brought my brother-in-law’s youngest son from his second marriage. And what did I need all this happiness for?
A year later we told my mother-in-law that she had to solve her housing problem. She started crying and getting hysterical again.
I had to talk to the father-in-law, and so they say it’s time to free his mother’s living space. But he refused to leave his parent’s apartment, and said he had two children and a small salary, and therefore he can not pay for rent. What’s in it for me?
Lately my relationship with my husband’s mother has really deteriorated. I do not even want to go home after work. I decided to talk to my husband and ask him to resolve the issue of housing for his mother, or I will file for divorce.
My words brought my husband in shock, as he had no idea where he should put his mother, well, do not throw her out on the street?
I told him that he mother rented a studio apartment, the good thing we have the means to do so. But my mother-in-law flatly refused to live in a rented apartment and said that we must rent a two-bedroom for my brother-in-law and his family, and she would go back home.
I thought this was impertinent and said that if my mother-in-law didn’t move out in a week, I would just put all of her things in the entryway. What other options do I have?
I don’t think we are obligated to support my brother-in-law’s family, much less provide them with a place to live!
