It takes a lot of effort to get your child to focus by holding yourself back at times when your baby “can’t hear” you. In such cases, find another way to communicate.
Modern parenting psychology offers the following recommendations for improving children’s concentration:
– use only truthful information, getting your child to do this or that, once children realize that they have been deceived, it may take a very long time to restore their trust and respect, and not the fact that after the deception, the child will fully trust you, as it was before;
– improvise more, it can be peculiar phrases from cartoons, humorous phrases from children’s poems, some of your common, family terms, causing the children to laugh and positive emotions;
– denial should occupy no more than 15% in your phrases addressed to children, all other messages should be based on the words “yes”, “may”, “please”, “as you like”, etc. But there is also the other side of the coin, children need to learn that certain restrictions on action exist, then it will be easy for you to control the behavior of the child, restraining him from undesirable actions;
– just like for an adult, a child’s own name means a lot to him/her, so less of calling children “babe”, “kitty”, “bunny”, etc., call your children by name, it is good for them to gather for a conversation with you;
– draw the child’s attention not to possible consequences (“don’t spill”, “don’t fall down”), but to what he or she should do now (“hold it steady”, “step over”). Such wording will shorten the child’s way of perceiving reality without the need for additional indirect reflection on how to act;
– find time for soulful communication with children, share your thoughts, dreams, tell about your childhood, grandparents’ childhood, ask about friends in kindergarten, who from teachers or teachers like the most. If a child knows your weaknesses (you don’t always want to wash the dishes, do the cleaning), but sees that you do things that you don’t want to do, he will also perceive the need to adequately and without unnecessary emotions will do what he doesn’t really want to do either;
– a daily dialogue with children should become an immutable rule for each of parents, it is the conversation with children that will allow to keep contact and mutual understanding with them.
